Another argument I hear is that somehow they justify abortion because there are problems with the baby, because we wouldn't be able to handle the "burden". One of my favorite quotes comes from Gianna Jessen and let me be the first to tell you how amazing this woman is. She says "Ladies and Gentlemen there are things that you will ONLY be able to learn from the weakest among you". And she is so right. Well, you say..."you've never been faced with that decision" you tell me? Really? Well, let me tell you my own experience because yet again, you are wrong.
2 years after my first miracle was born we found out we were pregnant again.
Being that I am high risk I was rushed in for appointments very soon. I had my first sonogram earlier than normal and they saw something on the sonogram that concerned them. So, they sent me to a specialist and so began the process of having sonograms every week of my pregnancy. There was a spot on his heart, and as it was there every week they knew what it meant. My Dr (who became a family friend) sat me down and told me that my baby had a high chance of having down syndrome. He said that there are no other signs but we will continue to watch for them and if they did not appear it could mean he doesn't have it. It was just a chance but a better chance than the normal pregnancy. He told me I had options, and when I asked "what do you mean" he said, "well some women don't want to risk that chance and it's an option you have", and he also said "I mean I personally wouldn't make that choice but it is your choice to make". I quickly assured him not to go any further with that because, for us, it wasn't a choice. We would have him and love him, even if he did have down syndrome. Everything progressed normally otherwise during pregnancy. I got lots of pictures since we had a sono weekly and I grew to even love seeing him so often. He liked to wave at us during the sonogram. 8 months. For 8 months the chance grew just a little bit more since we were still seeing this "bright spot" on his heart. We had to think about and consider what our lives would be like if he did have DS, and yes it was hard to think about. But we were also blessed with some friends who had an amazing child with DS in our church. We loved seeing him thrive as he got older. Then, at 8 months all of a sudden there was no bright spot. It was gone. We were still told there could be a chance but that it was much smaller and they would let me know as soon as he was born. Our Kung Foo Ru is now a lively, friendly, loving lil clown. He loves to make us laugh and I just cannot imagine our lives without him.
One day he came to me and told me his heart was special (he doesn't really know this story yet) and I asked why. His answer? "Because God lives in my heart".
Oh he doesn't know how much this is true. God loved my dear one from the moment he was conceived and took care of him and even if he had been born with DS it would have been exactly as God planned for his life, and ours.
My lil one IS the heart of our family. He always was. And my heart's birthday is TODAY. Happy birthday to my heart, you were always perfect even in your imperfections.
So there you go.
I know they are alive and human from conception, because Charlie Brown Danced at 8 weeks.
I know ALL life has value, and have had to face the decision.
and maybe one day I will know even more by adopting. Who knows what lessons we'll learn but you know what?! I'm sure I'll tell you about it when I do. :)
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